Procrastination, my dear friend.

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Meet “Procrastination”. This dude is a really good friend of mine. We’ve known each other since way back before I knew what his name was. I call him, “Crasty” for short. In my pre-teens, whenever my mom would tell me to wash the dishes or wipe the table clean, I would find my dear friend and play with him instead. In my collage days, whenever I had to wake up for an early morning class, Crasty would lay beside me and remind me how fluffy and cozy it is to just lay down for a couple minutes more. This would later entail the couple more minutes I will be late for class that day.

But Crasty isn’t always bad for me. He helped me extend more days at home with my family when I should have gone to work. He helped me keep so many trinkets of the past because I couldn’t get myself to throw them away just yet. He also paved way for me to watch so many movies and TV shows ranging from English to Japanese, Filipino to French and Korean to Spanish because I would put off something else just to watch such shows.

And as far as I know, everyone else is friends with Crasty, too! Sometimes more close than they should be. Whenever someone puts off calling their families using work as an excuse, whenever someone opts not to apply for a promotion thinking they’re not ready for it, or whenever someone doesn’t work on his project according to plan because he’s scared to fail. All these, they do with Crasty by their side.

This New Year, Crasty has to keep his distance from me. It will be hard to let him go, but even harder if I don’t start now. Isn’t it clumsy to procrastinate from letting go of procrastination?

That’s my resolution for 2017. What’s yours? Which friends are you going to let go this year? Hatred? Fear? Laziness? Let me know.

Have a blessed New Year, everyone!

Five Things to do when you CAN’T SLEEP

It’s way past your bed time and you find yourself tossing and turning on your bed. Your body is tired and is more than willing to welcome slumber land but your mind wouldn’t allow it. What should you do? Count sheep? Surf the net? Watch random cute videos of pandas and kittens? Nah! Try these five tips instead.

1.Work on a chore.

It pays to be productive if you can’t bring yourself to sleep. Wash the dishes, fold your clothes, shine your shoes, do the laundry. Trust me, you will not run out of chores to do. By the time you finish your work; it may seem forever but in reality it’s just 15 minutes, nonetheless you will be super tired, even your mind would want to rest.

2. Write.

I find myself most creative during this time of the day. So I write whatever comes to mind. If you have a blog, write a blog post (ehem). If you’re a budding author, work on another chapter of your book. If you’re a secret poet, bring that Shakespeare out and write a sonnet or two.

3. Read.

If you are a bookworm, then this tip most probably will be on top of your list. Go and read that last chapter of your favorite novel. But if you are more into magazines then check all the latest trends that fancy your eyes and browse away.

4. Listen to calming music.

This is my personal favorite. I just double tap on my Spotify app and play Spirited Away soundtracks or Yiruma compositions and I’m ready to sail into slumber land. Find the genre that suits your taste and calms your mind. Even if that means listening to punk rock or heavy metal, if it helps sets your mood to sleep, then go for it.

5. Catch up with someone.

If you’re energy is still up, then call a friend or loved one (so long as that person is most likely awake during this hour or else you might be destroying bonds instead of building it). Constant meaningful communication is key to strengthening relationships. However, if everyone else is already asleep, then send them messages that would bring their mood up once they awake. Your name will be the first thing they see on their phones the next day and you’ll have that advantage of brightening their day up with your simple but sweet text.

I hope you find these suggestions helpful. Sweet dreams, everyone!

Thoughts at 3am

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Snoopy and friends cheering me on as I write this post. 😂

It’s 3:16 on a cold Monday morning as of this writing. This is one of those out-of-the-blue posts that you do because your mind is wide awake and you can’t sing yourself back to sleep. Your playlist of JB and Ed aren’t helping, and your thoughts can’t help but wander from that delish pasta post on IG to your purpose and meaning of living in this crazy planet we call Earth.

Before I get lost in a trance from cyberspace awesomesauce aka watching random adorable panda videos on youtube, let me share three bits of truth that struck me today (strictly speaking yesterday). This may or may not be of help to you, but I sincerely hope the former will suit you.

 

1. Life is difficult.

I was reading “The Road Less Traveled” by Scott Peck and the opening sentence of the first chapter of the book says, “life is difficult.” As I was going through it, I was thinking that yes, life is difficult. I know. Everybody knows that. But then the author continues with saying that most do not fully see the truth about life being difficult because people “moan more or less incessantly, noisily or subtly, about the enormity of their problems, their burdens, and their difficulties as if life were generally easy, as if life should be easy.”

Apparently, life is a series of problems. Peck drives to his point by asking “Do we want to moan about them or solve them?”

2. Repetition is key.

I did some major house cleaning yesterday since my bestfriend gave me a spare cabinet for my clothes. I had to rearrange my stuff to put order in my chaotic pad. The result was immaculate! My place looks amazing now more than ever. It even sparked a cleaning frenzy so today I’m working on my door bedazzling project. Already done with the paint job, now preparing for the highlights.

Bottomline is that you should continuously work towards your goal. Your every step may not be equally big, but keep walking. Keep moving. Get something done. Be productive today. Every day. Life won’t be easier but you’re not complaining because you’re busy solving the problem.

3. Just do it.

No, this third and final bit of truth I came upon today isn’t from the marketing spiel of a famous sporty shoes brand. Though, the name of the brand did cross my mind while I was writing this since I’ve been bombarded with commercials repetitively about it since I can’t remember when. Bit number two really is true.

Anyway, I’ve been planning to go back to blogging my heart out since last year when I posted about me being back in the wordpress community. My planning was to no avail of course until today. You see, I’ve learned the art of procrastination quite well. Excuses rise from “My laptop’s busted.” to “I’ll do it later.”; from “What if I say gibberish?” to “I’m not in the mood.”

My laptop still is busted, so I’m typing from my phone! I may be speaking gibberish but I’m able to process my learnings today and share it with others. I am in the mood and I’m actively living my now instead of passively passing through precious time.

As they say, Just Do It.

 

What are your random thoughts at this hour?

xoxo,

thepurplebliss2016

A Piece of August

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It’s two in the afternoon, my body clock jars me awake. I came home around 8:30, dead tired from the day’s work (or shall I say, night’s work since I’m on night shift), and slept almost immediately once I saw my cozy purple bed calling me.

Now five hours later, I can’t get myself back to sleep, but am too lazy to do house chores to kill time so here I am, writing again, for the first time in a long time, reviving what’s left of my one-year dormant blog.

I know it’s been around a year since I stopped my regular posts because I just celebrated my first year anniversary in the company (hurray!), which was exactly the reason why I broke my writing cycle (boo!) adjusting to the new workplace and all (teehee).

In that light, this post is about celebrating milestones in our lives. In the past year, what milestones do you consider celebrating? What recent events in your life are worth being extremely grateful for? Here’s my top eight:

  1. Celebrating my first year in Wells Fargo.
  2. Moving in to my new place.
  3. Having mom and dad come over for summer.
  4. Having regular meet-ups with old friends.
  5. Traveling to Baguio and Vigan with my best friend.
  6. Going out of town with my family.
  7. Having the successful launch of the “book of love” project”
  8. Going mountain climbing four times in 2015 (and counting).

Cheers to celebrating small victories! What’s your victory story?

P.S. As the title suggests, I originally wrote this post a couple of months ago but decided to publish it today because it’s about time I come back! Thus, the caption on the selfie. (haha)

I will be posting separate blogs about each of my eight milestones for the year. Watch out for it!

Love lots,

thepurplebliss

One Fine Weekend

I went home for only two days over the last weekend of 2014. The whole trip was so fast and short-lived that I sometimes wonder if it was just a dream, if not for the pictures to remind me that it really happened. However, short as it was, I am grateful to be able to go home and hug everyone. I haven’t seen them for a year and miss them dearly.

My flight was delayed for two hours and I finally touched base around eight. Mom, Dad, Ate, Kuya, and my six lovely nieces and nephews fetched me. We went out for dinner straight from the airport, then we went to City Hall to see the Christmas lights, and passed by Paseo del Mar on a crowded Saturday night to buy knickerbocker, my favorite dessert. We went swimming at Regency the next day and shared heart to heart conversations with my sister for lunch and dinner. I had breakfast with a close friend who’s soon to be a doctor on the day of my return flight; took family group pictures in between massages and pedicures then off to the airport again. *Whew!

God was so gracious that even on my way back, while I was waiting to board the plane, I stumbled upon a good friend from Ateneo. We’ve been friends since I was in high school and we were in the same organization called Kabataang Samahan ng Magis at Animo (KASAMA).

I couldn’t be happier to see her! We immediately dove in to conversation to make up for the four, almost five years since the last time that we saw each other. Even though we still get updates about each other’s lives via social media sites throughout those years, nothing beats face to face conversations.

We were so engaged in conversation that we even requested to exchange seats with another passenger in the plane. The other passenger was also gracious to let us do so. We exchanged stories from our trip home to our current jobs; from reminiscing KASAMA moments to love lives and what not, but the best part is just sharing the moment with someone you know, trust and miss so much. It’s that elusive feeling of meeting someone from your past and sharing all your fears, successes, dreams and joys without reservation.

At NAIA 3, we bid our goodbyes and I’m back to reality. Hello, Metro City and off to work again in a few hours. It’s a manic Monday after all.

Nonetheless, I learned three things during this one fine weekend: 1. It is not how long you stayed, but how well you spent the time you had. 2. No amount of money is wasted when you spend it for family because nothing beats going home. 3. Friendship is not bound by space or time. You won’t know who God would make you meet today and so savor every encounter!

To Ate Pia, cheers to our next rendezvous!

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Five Things My Big Sisters Need to Know

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Growing up as the youngest of five sisters, I was always told how lucky I am to be the “bunso” in the family. However, my experiences can provide ample evidence supporting the contrary, but, this post is not about that. This post is actually one that reinforces the fact that, indeed, I am lucky, or rather blessed, to have big sisters in my life.

To my “ates” heads up!

1. I look up to you.

The four of you are my standard of what a woman, a mother, and a person should be. I respect you in everything that you do and am really amazed by how dedicated and loving you are to your families and especially to your kids.

2. I am  so proud of you.

I know we all have our insecurities, or our bad days but please know that I have been, am, and will always be proud of you. No matter how many mistakes, missteps, or silly decisions you may make, you always have my back.

3. I am jealous of you.

Since you all came before me, you all have experienced different versions of mom and I am quite jealous of the fact that you get to experience mommy as the “first-time mom” or the “fashionista mom” and the like.

4. I am grateful of you.

You gave me seven really wonderful nieces and nephews who are basically just my younger siblings (with the way I treat them). Thank you, thank you, thank you for making my life really colorful with my lovely “pamangkins.”

5. I am happy to have you in my life.

I know I can’t choose my sisters, but I’m glad that God entrusted you, four, to me. He is so cool, because He gave me four of the most beautiful, caring, understanding, and supportive sisters in the world! I couldn’t ask for more!

Loving you always,

Sweetheart ❤ aka thepurplebliss

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Here and Now

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Have you ever felt powerless? Insufficient? Lacking? At some point in time of our lives, we have those days when these negative feelings cover our minds and hearts. There are days when no matter how hard you try, it seems like what you’re doing is still not enough. No matter how much you give, it still doesn’t suffice.

However, despite all the negative thoughts, don’t forget to put room for a little sunshine. Think, “What I’m doing may not be enough, but I’m doing something.” Say, “I may not be giving much, but I’m giving nonetheless.” Acknowledge the fact, that you are in constant motion. Embrace the reality that you are doing so much better today then you were yesterday. You may still be far from reaching your goals, but you are living every day in a manner that will surely bring you to where you want to be.

So when all hope seems scarce and when you feel like the end is near, remember, here and now is actually just the beginning. Don’t give up! We are all in this together! ❤

xoxo,

purplebliss

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Forming the Habit of Celebrating Small Victories

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Growing up, we are so used to being told what “not” to do and what not to be. Don’t say bad words. Don’t stay out too late. Don’t hang out with that crowd. Don’t get pregnant. Don’t dress inappropriately. Don’t act like a kid. Don’t do this and don’t do that. Once we’re older, it kind of sticks in our system. I believe society as a whole has this deficiency.

People usually try to find fault in others first. Teachers would usually pay more attention on their students’ mistakes. Employers have more regulations focused on punishments instead of rewards for their employees. Advertisers would pick on their target market’s imperfections so they can sell their products that promise perfection. People would spend more time talking about everything that’s wrong in their lives and other people’s lives than what’s good. It seems like most of us are always looking at the negative side of life to such an extreme that we’ve forgotten to relish in the beauty that also exists.

With spiritual direction, I realized the value of celebrating small victories. This means, in every good deed that you do or positive change that you experience, no matter how small, savor it. You don’t have to tell the whole cyberworld about it but you should acknowledge it to yourself or share it to your closest friend. This is an attempt to look more closely in the brighter side of things.

When making goals, instead of I want to lose 20 pounds, make it I want to gain more muscle mass.  When searching for Mr. Right, instead of “I want to meet someone who wouldn’t hurt me,” say I want to meet someone who would love and cherish me.”

Choose more positive adjectives to describe your feelings, too. When someone asks how you are, choose to say, “I’m fine” over “Not Bad.” When giving instructions use more “dos” rather than “don’ts.” your subordinates will appreciate it.

When you fail in something, accept it, learn from it, and try harder next time. It’s still okay to identify the wrong things that you have done in order to learn from them, but don’t drown yourself in self-pity, worry, and self-deprecating thoughts to a point that you forget your value as a person and as son or daughter of God.

Celebrate your small victories. Your future self will thank you for it.

 

The Secret to Happiness

 

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If you want to be SAD, all you have to do is COMPARE.

She is prettier than me. She is effortlessly sexy but I’m fat. She seems to be going steady with her beau but I’m still single. She’s so popular with the guys  but I seem to repel them. Her bag is from the latest collection but mine is so last year’s. He has a thriving business but I’ve been struggling to keep mine afloat. He bought a new car but I’m still stuck with my old rusty ride. They went on another European tour but I haven’t been to a single one.  They bought another house but I can’t even afford to buy one.  The list goes on and on.

When you keep on looking at what others have and what you don’t have then you’ll really end up sad and pathetic. Also, don’t mistake identifying how fortunate you are than other people as counting your blessings. That is still comparing and you won’t really feel happy doing that. Comparison ends up negatively. Simply stop yourself every time you do it consciously and catch yourself every time you do it subconsciously.

If you want to be HAPPY, don’t compare yourself to others. The guaranteed path to happiness is to COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS.

I am blessed with a loving family. I have food to eat. I have a place to go home to. I have amazing friends who love me for who I am. I have a supportive work environment. I can watch the awesome sunset right outside my office window. I have a complete set of limbs. I can smell the delicious aroma of a home-cooked meal. I can hear the sweet voice of my one-year-old nephew. I can see the light of day. I am alive. The list goes on and on.

Before you go to bed tonight, count your blessings. Do it tomorrow night. Do it every day. You’ll be amazed at how blessed you are and how happier you’ll be.

Be happy for you are blessed. Here’s one for your list tonight-it’s a Friday!

Have a happy weekend!

A Piece of Advice from Fr. Chambers

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A True Israelite

“FOR GOD”

An Israelite was asked, “Why do you send your children to school?”

He answered, “So that they will learn how to read, if they already know how to read, they will be able to read the Bible, then if he/she/they read about the Bible, they learn about God, if they learn about God, they tend to love God, and if they love God, they are able to serve God.

He was again asked, “Why do you feed your children?”

He answered, “So that they will become strong and healthy, if they are strong and healthy, they can read the Bible, and then learn about God, then love God, then serve God.

He was then asked, “Why do you have a roof on top of your house?”

He answered, “So that something will shelter/cover my family from all outside forces that might harm them, and if they are protected, they could read the Bible, then learn about God, then love God, then serve God.

Everything he did was for God.

Everything we do is for God. 

I was fifteen when I encountered this one-of-a-kind teacher who taught me lessons that would last throughout the years. It’s been nine years since Fr. John Chambers SJ told his Values class about the story of a True Israelite. In his short simple story, he wanted to teach us that the ultimate reason to everything we do in this world is “For God.” Every day is an opportunity to show Him how much we love Him. Everything we do should be done for God. Indeed, He is the reason for living. Even though we get caught up with the things of this world, I hope we won’t lose sight of the reason we do the things we do: FOR GOD.